Grief, loss, heartbreak, sadness
Grief is a normal, healthy and appropriate feeling when we experience loss. People may tell you that we shouldn’t seek help for grief, that time alone will heal us. Or that we should live in the pain as proof that we love who or what we have lost. Yet often it can feel too big and too painful. Or we find that time passes and we aren’t healing, so we need professional help.
Unresolved grief, loss, heartbreak or sadness can effect our work, our personal relationships, our health, our eating, spending and our self care. Tackling your pain will bring you greater self awareness and a release of the intense pain.
So you don’t need to deal with this alone… I can help you.
Are you dealing with…
Bereavement (recent or distant)
A shock or trauma around separation or death
A broken relationship or marriage
A broken family or friendship
The loss of a well loved pet or animal
The loss of something really important to you (home, job, health etc.)
There are five recognised stages of grieving (shock/denial, anger/pain, bargaining/guilt, depression/longing and acceptance/restructuring) and you may need support working through them. You may struggle with one stage more than another. Or find yourself cycling between the stages as a way to avoid or escape the stage you are currently in.
The trouble with grief is that we often complicate things for ourselves without realising that this is what we are doing. It’s easy to get in a muddle with our grief, loss, sadness, hurt, because these are such strong and debilitating emotions. They can be so painful and carry such a charge because they trigger our fundamental Attachment Issues from childhood.
- We may tell ourselves that there is no way through this.
- Perhaps we think that we don’t deserve to feel any better as we feel guilty for being angry at the person or life that we have lost.
- Or we are scared to feel better. We worry that if we feel better it means that we didn’t care deeply enough for the person/life we have lost.
- Sometimes we simply can’t accept our loss. We can’t come to terms with a death or the end of a relationship or situation.
- When a partner simply moves on with their lives, often we are unable or unwilling to move on ourselves.
How I can help YOU
Life Coaching using EFT Tapping, Time Line Therapy,® NLP or hypnosis can help you to heal your beliefs, thoughts and feelings so that you can move through the process with understanding and support. They can be used to help you to release the pain, while still holding onto the love and connection as appropriate.
- Using these techniques to feel better can help you to strengthen your general health and your immune system (which all improve when you are under less stress) and it can help you to cope in the world.
- You can ease reliance on other forms of stress relief, such as food, alcohol, spending and help to bring you to a more peaceful understanding of your situation.
- The aim of the work is to help you to feel better. To be able to let go and move on where a relationship has ended. Or to feel closer and more connected to whoever you have lost through bereavement.