NLP focusses on how our brains are programmed and on the link between language, our senses and how we experience life.
The result of this focus has been the development of a whole set of tools and techniques that we can use to empower a person to achieve greater success and happiness in all areas of life.
I use NLP in a therapeutic-life coaching style. I help people to change their feelings, thoughts, beliefs and behaviours for the better.
It is all about the self awareness of how to use your mind, to achieve the results you desire. NLP offers a means by which people can better communicate and achieve their goals. It is powerful for understanding yourself.
NLP explains how we process information coming to us from the world around us. An external event occurs and we experience it through our different senses.
We live in a primarily Visual world and most people in modern society are dominated by their visual senses. So that being very dominated by logic or feelings (or a contradictory strong experience of both) can make life very challenging. I specialise in understanding this.
All of us use some of our senses much more fully than others. So we create a unique experience of life for ourselves.
Also, before we make an internal representation of the event (using our senses) we do the following…
We Delete – we selectively (and unconsciously) pay attention to some aspects of our experience and not to others.
We Distort – we make shifts in our experience of our sensory data. We do this by making either misrepresentations of reality or making it mean something about ourselves or the world that isn’t necessarily true.
For example, we may think we are being ignored when we aren’t and then we take it to mean that someone doesn’t like/love us or that we are unlovable.
We Generalise – we draw global conclusions based on just one or more experiences. For example, maybe our first partner leaves us and then we expect every partner to do the same thing.
It’s my responsibility to draw attention to when you are deleting, distorting or generalising about your experiences. By becoming aware of this you’ll have access to other ways of interpreting events that happen in your life and thus of impacting your experience.
The tools of NLP also allow for understanding what ‘strategies’ (exact methods) people have for creating their own problems (which helps us undo them).
NLP also helps us to explore how we can split off into parts, so that you’re not working as a whole integrated person of one mind. Where you find yourself fighting or undermining yourself despite your best intentions.
This links to Inner Child Work where we can find ourselves triggered into reacting as though from our younger or teenage self.
When you find yourself using any of these phrases, it suggests that there is a Parts Issue present;
Parts integration allows the mind to get back into a situation of working as one whole, which leads to easier decision making and to allowing us to naturally follow through on our decisions because there is no longer a part of us wanting something else.
Overall NLP is a very powerful way of changing the way we think, feel and experience the world and ourselves. Which supports us to have the results we want in our lives.